Important: Before you study this lesson please watch this video, “Why?“. Example: If you or your client are in a relationship and the other person displayed an attitude of not being “Truthful”, you’ll need to master, and you’ll need to educate your client the following: “Confront and Level!”, “Assertive Communications!”, as well as “I Feel Good, PST!”.
Make sure to answer the questions at the end and follow the instructions for submission!
One of the greatest gifts we all share is the gift of curiosity. As humans we have always been curious about things and that’s why we are the most advanced species on the planet. Our curiosity has always driven us to make our lives better, aim for more, know more and to achieve more.
But sometimes instead of making our lives better curiosity makes them harder. And it happens in such a way that we don’t even realize that our curiosity is doing more damage than good.
In our day-to-day lives, we often become curious about things. A certain thought sparks our curiosity and as a result we start seeking answers. But when we are unable to find the answers, what do we do? Do we let it go? No, we don’t. When we are unable to find the appropriate answers, we start jumping to conclusions, we start building ideas around it and finally, we start making assumptions.
We fill in the blanks with our own thoughts that are based on our past experiences, our deductions, and our predictions, and we adopt the assumption as our reality.
“I can’t get a promotion because my skills are inadequate,” “I can’t get into that university because I suck at math,” “I can’t stay in this relationship because my husband doesn’t love me anymore.” Just because of our assumptions, we hold ourselves back. We miss out on many opportunities, we doubt our relationships, and we fabricate conclusions inside our heads that not only impact our actions but also impact our lives.
The problem arises when these assumptions become facts for us. When we start accepting these assumptions as our reality. But have you ever wondered why we make assumptions? Why do we accept half-truths? Let’s find out.
Why do we make assumptions?
There are many reasons we make assumptions. But whatever the reason, the impact of our assumptions remains the same. Here are a few reasons that explain why we make assumptions.
Laziness: Making assumptions takes out all the work. You don’t have to ask questions anymore, you don’t have to seek answers anymore, simple, right? Making assumptions give us an answer right away. It helps us connect the dots and figure things out on our own without much work.
We lack patience: Sometimes we just aren’t patient enough to wait for answers. Instead of approaching a situation constructively we find ourselves jumping to conclusions.
Instant gratification: Thanks to the modern marvels, we have gotten used to seeking instant gratification. And unfortunately, we apply the same principles to our lives. As a result, instead of searching and asking questions, we rush ourselves and accept half-truths as facts.
Making assumptions is easy: Last, but not least, making assumptions makes our lives easier. But does it though? No, it doesn’t. But still, we prefer jumping to conclusions and accepting half-truths because at the time it seems like a good idea, but in the long run, it comes back to you.
Do you think conclusions originating from half-truths can lead to something positive? Have you ever wondered how our assumptions affect our lives?
Impact of assumptions in our lives:
Making assumptions is one of the most common habits among people. We are always jumping to conclusions and making assumptions. But these assumptions and half-truths come back to us. Our eyes do open up after a while and the reality is often harsh.
Our assumptions feed different emotions. Some assumptions feed anger, some assumptions feed fear and some assumptions make us happy, but for how long?
“My wife has been texting a lot these days, I wonder if she is cheating in me,” “I can’t appear in that test, I know the question will be difficult,” “I won’t get that promotion because I was on leave for five days this month,” “She’s so great, and it has been only two months since I met her but I know she is perfect for me.”
Our assumptions hold the power to give us false hope, high expectations, ruin our relationships and even cripple us. How many times have your assumptions held you back? How many times have you lost an opportunity just because of your assumptions? How many times have you made bad decisions because of the half-truths?
If our assumptions are doing more harm than good, wouldn’t it be wise to put a halt on the habit of making assumptions?
How to avoid making assumptions:
We all make assumptions every day. Our every thought is capable of pushing us to make assumptions. But with a few simple steps, you can stop the habit. But before we get started, it’s important to understand that self-improvement takes time and patience. It’s OK if you aren’t able to ditch the habit right away. Move at your own pace but make sure you are moving forward.
Be conscious: Sometimes we make assumptions or accept half-truths unconsciously. We don’t even realize when our thoughts get altered. Therefore, it is important to keep track of your thoughts and know when your mind is trying to make an assumption.
Ask questions: One of the best ways to eliminate assumptions and half-truths is to ask questions. Not only will asking questions satisfy your curiosity, it also helps you fill in the blanks with real answers and avoid assumptions.
Introspect: Whenever you catch yourself making an assumption ask yourself if you have all the facts. If so, great! If not, you need to do some searching.
Discuss: When you exchange your thoughts with other people, it gives you more clarity. Hence an open discussion can equip you with insights to help you avoid making assumptions.
Take notes: Taking notes or maintaining a journal is another great way of avoiding assumptions. Keeping track of the number of assumptions you make per day can give you valuable information about yourself as well as the situation.
So how has ditching the habit of making assumptions helped you? How has it changed your life?
The essay
Please write an essay, up to two pages, about a past experience you or someone you know had when you made an assumption decision. Tell us in detail, who, what, when, where, why, to whom, the time, the place of what you did. The outcome! And tell us in detail how you could have changed that use from what you learned today so the outcome would have been good. Internalize this lesson. Make it become a part of you. Share your story in the “Forums”
Our advice is for you to practice “Not Making Assumptions” for at least a week. Tell others around you to point out any event in which you didn’t. Have them hold you accountable. Visit the “Forum” and do a “CONFESSION”.
What is a “CONFESSION”? A CONFESSION IS WHEN YOU’VE DISPLAYED A WRONG BEHAVIOR AND WERE HELD ACCOUNTABLE BY ONE OF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS, PEERS, OR EVEN BY YOU. VISIT THE “FORUM” AND TELL US ABOUT IT. WE WILL GIVE YOU FEEDBACK! MAKE SURE TO WATCH THE VIDEO ABOUT “CONFESSION” FOR MORE DETAILS! FURTHERMORE, BECOME A MEMBER OF THE FORUM AND GIVE FEEDBACK TO OTHERS. “That’s how you gain practice in becoming a CERTIFIED LIFE COACH!
Read the article? Time for introspection!
Please answer the following:
1. Do you also find yourself making assumptions when you fail to find answers?
2.Would you say that limiting assumptions has negatively impacted your life? If yes, how?
3.Have you ever lost an opportunity, or have you ever felt crippled because of the assumptions that you have made?
4.Why do you think you jump to conclusions?
5.Would you say that ditching the habit of making assumptions is a good idea? If yes, what steps are you planning to take to overcome this habit?
Sources:
https://fierceinc.com/blog/how-to-avoid-jumping-straight-to-assumption
https://www.purposefairy.com/86985/stop-making-assumptions/
This module includes the following:
- Introduction
- Why Become a Life Coach
- Thinking the Worst
- Unconditional Thinker
- Blaming
- You Should
- I Can’t
- Grandiose Questions
- It’s Them
- Loaded Words
- Making Assumptions
- Have to Need to, Must
- Attitude Check & Confession
- I Feel Good, PST™
- Why?
There is no way any relationship will survive without having the qualities mentioned above.
Make sure to read each article carefully at least three time. Print your workbook (will be available per lesson.) Answer all questions and enter them in your workbook. Once you have completed this entire journey, you will be issued a Life Coach Certificate so long as you’ve been a member of the “Forums.”
Also, follow the instruction for sharing your story in our Forums as well as participating in our “Forums,” especially our unique “Confessions Forum” so you may gain practice, knowledge, experience, and expertise!
I am thankful that you have given me this opportunity to share all of this with you. May God bless you and bring prosperity and peace into your life.
Respectfully yours,
George Tannous, PhD
This is Where Confessions, Attitude Checks, Accountability, Give and Receive Feedback Comes in. Practice for Your Own Practice!
Well, you might be asking yourself “How am I going to get practice for my practice?” Great question and I thought you’ll never ask!
#1 You are part of a group with the same interests.
#2 You have a question in regards to one of your clients and we are here to help you.
#3 Others have questions and you can give feedback and help them.
#4 You need to do a confession.
#5 And much more.
You Are Never Alone! Join the Forums!
Once you have completed this entire journey, you will be issued a Life Coach Certificate. Must participate in our Forums to get certified! You’ll achieve your internship by joining and partcipating in our “Forums”.